Supporting People with IDD During the Holidays: Finding Joy, Comfort, and Calm for DSPs
The holiday season brings excitement, tradition, togetherness — and sometimes a little chaos. For many people with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD), including those with Down syndrome, autism, cerebral palsy, and other disabilities, this time of year can be full of joy but also full of change: new routines, different foods, busy environments, louder sounds, emotional energy, and social expectations.
For supporters, whether you’re a direct support professional, family member, case manager, or residential team member, this season can also be a lot. You’re juggling schedules, managing transitions, creating meaning, and holding space for others’ emotions, all while trying to make the holidays special. The support of the community and society is especially important during the holidays to foster inclusion and belonging for people with IDD.
With some thoughtful planning and gentle pacing, the holidays can be a time of connection, comfort, and celebration for everyone—a meaningful part of life for all, including those with IDD. Changes in routines and environments can be especially challenging for children with IDD, as childhood is a critical time for development.
Here are some ideas and reminders to help create a joyful, person-centered holiday season. When honoring personal preferences and strengths, it is important to recognize and support each individual’s unique abilities during the holidays.
Celebrate in Ways That Feel Meaningful — Not Overwhelming
Holidays don’t have to be loud, crowded, or fast-paced to be special. Many people with IDD prefer predictability, routine, and quiet comfort. Consider activities that bring warmth and joy without overstimulation:
- A cozy holiday movie night with soft lighting (for example, watching a favorite film can help practice social and communication skills)
- Listening to seasonal music at a calm volume (an example of a relaxing activity that can support sensory regulation and encourage learning about different traditions)
- Crafting simple decorations or cards (this activity helps develop fine motor skills and life skills, such as following steps and expressing creativity. These activities also help develop other skills, such as problem-solving and adapting to new situations. For example, choosing materials or fixing a mistake while crafting encourages problem-solving and flexibility.)
- Walking or driving to enjoy neighborhood lights (for example, this can be an opportunity to practice community navigation and observation skills, as well as develop other skills like patience and social interaction when sharing the experience with others)
- Baking or preparing safe, favorite seasonal treats (an example of building life skills like measuring, following instructions, and working together. Baking also supports other skills, such as problem solving when a recipe doesn’t go as planned, and teamwork.)
- Reading winter-themed books or stories (this supports literacy skills and provides a chance to learn about seasonal events)
- Setting up a small “winter wonder” sensory area with soft textures and gentle lights (for example, this can help individuals learn to self-regulate and explore sensory preferences)
What’s most important is honoring personal preferences. Recognizing individual abilities and supporting the development of skills ensures that each person’s unique strengths are valued. Ask questions like:
- What parts of the season do you enjoy?
- Would you like a quiet activity or something more energetic?
- Are there traditions you love or ones you’d like to skip?
Voice and choice make celebrations meaningful.
Offer Comfort and Familiarity for Individuals with Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities
This time of year often changes routines, staffing, and schedules. Familiar items and rituals can create a comforting sense of stability and support adaptive behavior, helping individuals manage changes in their daily routines and self-care tasks, which can impact not only their emotional well-being but also the functioning of various bodily systems.
- Favorite snacks or drinks (with safety in mind)
- Familiar blankets or weighted items that provide physical comfort and support the individual’s bodily needs
- Calm sensory breaks between activities
- Predictable daily routines when possible
- Visual schedules or countdowns to help prepare for change
These comforting strategies can positively impact functioning in the context of holiday changes by supporting emotional regulation and helping to regulate both emotional and physical systems, thereby maintaining adaptive behavior during disruptions.
Little comforts go a long way, especially when emotions and expectations are running high.
Support Emotional Well-Being
The holidays can bring big feelings. For some people, this season brings joy; for others, it brings anxiety, nostalgia, or grief. Supporting mental health for people with IDD during the holidays is essential, as emotional well-being is closely linked to overall health. Some individuals with IDD may also experience behavioral disorders and may benefit from medical support or intervention during the holidays. Gently noticing and validating feelings helps everyone feel understood:
- “This feels different today. That’s okay.”
- “It’s alright to need quiet time.”
- “It’s okay to feel excited / overwhelmed / unsure.”
Caregivers play a vital role in helping individuals express their concerns and promoting a healthy emotional environment during the holidays.
Remember: a slow pace is still festive, and quiet moments can be just as meaningful as big celebrations.
Caring for Family Members and Supporters, Too
Those who support people with IDD, whether at home or in service settings, give so much of themselves throughout the year. Supporters provide support in many ways, and having the right supports in place is essential not only for people with IDD but also for their families and family members. The holidays add layers of activity, emotion, and responsibility.
You deserve peace, too.
A little self-care can help protect patience, presence, and compassion, and support health and safety for the people you support. Some small ways to reset during the season include:
- Taking a few deep breaths during busy moments
- Enjoying a warm drink or quiet break
- Connecting with colleagues or loved ones
- Celebrating tiny successes
- Giving yourself permission to rest when possible
When supporters feel supported, everyone benefits, and self-care helps both supporters and family members enable people with IDD to reach their full potential.
A Free Holiday Support Kit for You
To help bring warmth and calm into the season, we created a Warmth & Wellness Holiday Support Kit designed especially for those who support people with IDD.
It includes:
- Calming winter-wellness posters
- Peer-to-peer appreciation cards
- Gentle self-care tips
- Sensory-friendly activity ideas
- A compassionate winter well-being check-in
Download the Warmth & Wellness Holiday Support Kit here
Use these tools in team settings, residential programs, day services, family homes, educational services, special education settings, community-based services, and various residential options, or anywhere people support others. The kit is also helpful for those providing long-term support to individuals with IDD during the holiday season.
Warm Wishes from IntellectAbility
To every DSP, caregiver, clinician, coordinator, teacher, case manager, nurse, and family member:
Thank you for the patience, presence, and love you bring to your work every day, and especially during the holiday season. Community members, including supporters, play a vital role in helping people with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD) lead fulfilling lives and contribute to their communities.
Intellectual and developmental disabilities are a broader category that includes intellectual disabilities, other disabilities, and chronic conditions that often occur from birth or early childhood. These conditions can be caused by genetic conditions or syndromes, such as Down syndrome or Fragile X syndrome, and may also include cerebral palsy as a typical example. Intellectual or developmental disabilities can affect multiple body parts and systems, and are typically lifelong. The diagnosis of intellectual disability involves assessing general mental abilities and intelligence, often through standardized testing. More people are seeking support for these conditions, and organizations like IntellectAbility describe situations where these disabilities are identified, managed, and supported to improve quality of life.
At IntellectAbility, our mission is to provide tools, training, and knowledge that help people with IDD, developmental disability, and other disorders live healthier, safer, and more meaningful lives. From the Health Risk Screening Tool (HRST®) to person-centered training and free educational resources, we are honored to support those who support others in the disability community.
When supporters feel confident, informed, and cared for, the people they serve thrive, both during the holidays and throughout the year.
If you’re looking for evidence-based tools and education to help strengthen care and improve outcomes, we welcome you to explore our resources and connect with us. We provide information about the American Association of Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities, the Disabilities Education Act, and help connect people to IDD services.
Wishing you comfort, joy, and moments of quiet magic this season.
Additional Resources:
- Browse our library of free resources available for download
- Explore upcoming and on-demand free webinars in our IDD Perspectives series
- Discover our Person-Centered Thinking training and tools












